Life is……..

We never know what lies ahead in our lives but we can certainly be inspired by these thoughts and words by Mother Tesesa.

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.

Life is beauty, admire it.

Life is bliss, taste it.

Life is a dream, realize it.

Life is a challenge, meet it.

Life is a duty, complete it.

Life is a game, play it.

Life is a promise, fulfil it.

Life is sorrow, overcome it.

Life is a song, sing it.

Life is a struggle, accept it.

Life is a tragedy, confront it.

Life is an adventure, dare it.

Life is luck, make it.

Life is too precious, do not destroy it.

Life is life, fight for it.

 

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How do you choose a Marriage Celebrant?

There is an ever increasing number of Civil Marriage Celebrants being appointed in Australia by the Attorney-General’s Department. In 2010, I believe there was well over 12 000 marriage celebrants in Australia. Each marriage celebrant competes for their share of the ceremonies performed, whist couples have to wade through all the information, photos and testimonials presented.

All Civil Marriage Celebrants are bound by a Code of Practice that covers areas such as how we are to dress, conduct ourselves and our businesses and the minimum amount of time the celebrant has to turn up prior to the ceremony as examples.

I remember being told during my training that the most common complaint about a celebrants’ performance in the past at a marriage ceremony was that they couldn’t be heard by the guests. The outcome of this is now, as part of our Code of Practice a requirement is that the celebrant must be heard. We all have the latest and greatest PA systems that come with all the bells and whistles of -DVD, CD, MP3 and iPod capabilities.

Many aim to be on the first page of google and other popular wedding websites to keep in the eye of couples.

Most marriage celebrants will have sample ceremonies and resources to help couples design their own ceremony. Some celebrants cut and paste ceremonies, others compose a new ceremony for each event.

Some celebrants believe that a rehearsal is a must…others don’t. A few celebrants supply chairs for the guests, red carpets and decorative flags!

Ultimately then, how does a couple choose a celebrant for their ceremony?

For some couples it comes down to gender as they prefer an older male celebrant reflective of a father figure or that of the parish priest. For some couples, the decision is made on age. The average age of a celebrant is 62 years – experience verses youth.

Price is a big factor! Many couples look for the cheapest celebrant for one of the most important events in their lives.  Often they spend considerably more on the flowers or the cake, without a thought. 

 So what are some of the other qualities that couples look for in a marriage celebrant?

The celebrant you are considering for your ceremony should be

  •  well-presented
  •  clear in their explanations, have good diction and writing skills
  •  able to adapt to situations and have a sense of humour
  • friendly, approachable and sincere
  • able to listen well
  • respectful of your rights as individuals and as a couple
  • professional
  • passionate about their work

A good choice is the celebrant that gives “you” confidence in their ability to create a relaxed atmosphere that will enable “you” - the bride and groom to enjoy “your day” stress-free.

It is worth investing the time in finding the right celebrant for your event…particularly your marriage ceremony. Finding the right celebrant can be just as important as finding the right dress - they both have to be the right fit.  To see if I can be the right fit for your ceremony, let’s have a chat!

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The Importance of Ceremony in our lives.

All over the world people celebrate through ceremony, with many ceremonies having cultural or religious significance. Ceremonies are filled with ritual. A ceremony allows us to acknowledge a transition or a rite of passage – a new beginning or sometimes, as a conclusion to an event in our lives.

Ceremonies are held to celebrate a new life or in honour of a life well lived, for a graduation or a retirement, for a marriage or commitment. Communities hold ceremonies to reflect on events – events of historical and social significance. For those events that cause devastation or loss - ceremonies, simply help to heal.  A ceremony can help to show people they are united and that they belong. At a conference last year, I had the opportunity to listen and be inspired by Dally Messenger. In his talk he stated that,

“…in every ceremony the elements of integrated beauty, music, poetry, choreography and symbolism, purposely and skillfully integrated into the ceremony’s theme, emotionally embed, imprint and sink the totality of the event into the brain, into the memory, into the psyche and most importantly into the subconscious…”

Ceremonies can motivate us, stimulate our emotions and prompt memories. The positive effects of ceremony are universal across civilisations and are neither specific, to age or gender. 

Today, I had the pleasure of attending the Opening Celebrations for the coming year at my childrens’ school.  During the ceremony, new teachers and students are welcomed and all are invited to place a pebble into the Community Bowl. A simple act with a great and powerful meaning. Each pebble represents one unique individual, the action saying you are welcome and you are apart of our group, you are a valuable member of  our community. For my daughter and all of her peers, their participation in their first school ceremony, I am sure will be one of their most treasured memories of starting school.

  Elizabeth on her first day at school…one very proud little girl….one teary Mum!

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